A relationship is basically a cycle of complicated procedures running over a due course of time gradually leading to a solid concrete form. Somewhere between exchanging those first glances and dividing household chores, there is a fascinating process of step by step development of mutual trust, respect, love, and responsibility. From obsessing over a potential romance to finding a safe comfort zone with your long-term partner, let us unravel the various stages of relationship development every couple goes through before they seal the deal with a ring. These steps can vary from person to person and the tenacity, as well as the time each couple spends in each of these development phases, depends on the individual, but at the end of the day, it all breaks down to these five primary stages.
This is basically the stage of curiosity where the two potential partners initially meet and get to know each other. Whether a match is made in heaven or not is debatable, but they need to meet and begin somewhere. Often this meeting happens via friends, family, a social group, a party or as more common these days, over the internet. Different scenarios cater at various ways of knowing each other, and if there is just enough curiosity and attraction, people take it over to the next stage.
Once two people get to know each other and are attracted to each other, the lingering curiosity and sexual tension lead to love. Initial attractions are more or less based on physical appearance and basic character attributes. Romance is a stage where the couple treads into deeper waters by trying to know each other better - spending more time with each other, unraveling each other’s secrets and getting comfortable with their habits and likings. This stage is more about trying to impress each other and finding out if the other person can be a potential long-term partner.
Intimacy & Being a couple
This is a stage which is the make or break phase of a long-term relationship. The two potential partners have been with each other for a substantial amount of time and start noticing the little flaws and drawbacks – yes every relationship has some! Certain little habits do not seem ‘cute’ anymore, and this phase also brings about a lot of complaints and contradictions. Fights happen, but that does not deter the couple from getting very involved with each other. This is a stage where they intimacy is at the utmost and also shows how much effort and dedication someone is willing to show in the relationship even during hard times. Along with a lot of complications, self-disclosure emerges with the differences and gradually gives rise to the most important question for couples in this phase – “Where is this going?” With all the perpetual cards laid out on the table (both positive and negative) this is where a couple takes their time and decides whether they should take their relationship to the next level or not. This phase is usually longer, and it should be as it is not a wise decision to jump or rush into a decision that.
By now, couples have a clear understanding of each other – their lifestyle, ethics, nature, quirks and relationship goals. Couples who make it to this stage have already found stability and comfort with each other irrespective of their flaws. They realize that every relationship has shortcomings and that is perfectly fine.